Who Do You Think You Are?
It’s a question you never want to get asked. If someone does say that to you, you’re probably in some hot water. But all kidding aside, what would you say if I asked you that question? Not in angry way of course, but in a stop-and-consider-it kind of way?
Several years ago, if you’d asked me that, I would have said I don’t know. I struggled with low self-esteem and severe social anxiety. I desperately wanted people’s approval, but I was so afraid of rejection that I didn’t try to make friends. I thought my worth was tied up in other people, and because I had no people, I thought I was worthless.
I tried to cover it up, putting on a happy face in public. But inside I felt vulnerable and exposed.
Can you relate? Maybe your story isn’t exactly like mine, but you feel vulnerable. Maybe you don’t feel like your confidence is on solid ground. Maybe you’re not sure if you can handle the curveballs life might throw at you.
Well, you can’t. Not if you don’t know who you are. That’s why it is so important to intentionally spend time understanding your identity and building confidence.
Here are 7 questions you can ask yourself to assess whether you have a healthy identity:
Where am I finding my self-worth?
Who or what am I chasing?
Who do I wish I was? Why?
Do I know why I was created?
Do I know what my gifts are?
Are my gifts important and useful?
What lies am I believing about myself?
As you’re going through these questions, I encourage you to write down the answers, so you can have a clear, honest look at yourself. And if you don’t like what you see, don’t worry! What we rebuild will be stronger than what was there before.
Next week, we’ll discuss what God says about these 7 questions.